ya know wat really FUKIN sukx...

[SKOTurNOT]

...wen u and ur GF or wife in my case end it and as soon as u thing u might really be over her...she calls u one night drunk and tells u how much she really still loves who and misses you and shes all confused on why she left you to begin with.....then the next says...well i do miss u miss u but thats really all..i guess i was just drunk...............


shit after six years with her u would think i would know better than to almost beleive her and think of all the maybes and wat ifs.....


this shit just happend to me last night..and its not like i can just cut her off from my life b'cuz we have a 4 yr old son who lives with me.......
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.........oh and the fact that ive nevr stoped loving the mean heartbreaking bitch...................

any advise?

[*COURTNEY*]

Hun, you deserve better than that and you know it! the fact that you have somethign to do with your son and continue to be friends with the mom of your child shows how much shit you have. She's the dumb bitch to get drunk and do that to you. Don't worry you'll find someone better

[SKOTurNOT]

ya know i wats sad is that our son doesnt even know about us not being together .....he just thinks we dont live together for RIGHT NOW...she says shes not ready to tell him..and i guess the real reason i haven told him is bcozz im still hoping to get back to gether with her...shes the love of my life id do and have daone any thing for her..shit i went ot jail for some shit WE did..and now im om on probaton for 2 years for it and shes not even around....i cant over the feeling of " being stupid" why cant i let her go...she doenst even live in this state.....yo know there is no worse feeling than not to loved by the one u love especially wen 5 motnhs ago she still "supposedlly" loved you!!!!......how do just stop loving some one after six years....cuzz at this point i wanna know the magic words so i can stop loving her and move on........shit 3 days ago i thought i had moved on...i had finnally gotten to the point where she wasnt on my mind 24/7..i could do thing with my son and not get sad cuzz she wasnt ther..i could go to the mall and look for shit to buy her....shit iwas finnally actually ready to start talkin to girls again...no i feel likei got start all over........


ps...........any single girls out there who dont mind a guy with some FEMALE issues........lol ya rite!!

[*COURTNEY*]

I wish I could tell you....

[SKOTurNOT]

i wish i didnt need them

[SKOTurNOT]

ARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGG...MUTHA FUKIN SHIT ARGGGGGGGGGGG






OK I FEEL A LIL BETTER

[hya]

I obviously don't know your situation, but my dad was in pretty much the same position. My mom forced him to get a divorce and she moved out of the country )the Philippines) with me and wouldn't let him get in contact with me ever up until I was visiting the Philippines when I was 12 or 13. My dad moved on after a few years, got remarried, and is happy. But every time I talk to him, I could tell that he still cares about my mom and that he loves/loved her very much.

The heart just moves on sometimes I guess, but always be civil in front of the kid. He doesn't need to see what problems you two may go through in the course of your lives with him around.

[SKOTurNOT]

im always civil around him...shit i was still nice to her after she told me "oh i was drunk"......

thanks.....and shit it better not take me a few years......lol

[*COURTNEY*]

aaww all will be well...i'll see ya tomorrow, which by the way if you get online and I'm not on i'm prob getting ready..so give me a call around 1 tomorrow ok? bye

[Cell Construct]

Man Scott you seem to be a cool cat.

Check it. I know exactly what you are talking about. More than anyone you will ever meet and I think we hold a four year record. Period. Also, it may seem very harsh or frigid. But take your son out of the equation and think to yourself "How much do I love this girl" or "Do I JUST love this girl or am I in love with this girl". Bro if you are "in love" with this girl then continue with her charades until she is ready.

One thing I have learned is that people who truly are madly in love with each other LOVE TO FUCK WITH EACHOTHER. They love to hurt each other. To tease to bitch to bicker. This is real love.

Do you not know if you are in love with her?
Easy way to know...

she is your addiction she is your heroin....


If none of these emotions are felt drop her like a bad habit and never think twice. I wouldnt.

Unless, I was in love with her.

[Dis B ZooL]

been there, done that and completely feel you.. thats partly why I stay single. Much less drama and you dont have to go thru that kind of dissapointment and hurt.

[jiggy66]

Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.

[Alyshaz]

That must feel painful to have to deal with someone playing games when you know what you want. I went through it, when I was more then prepared to enjoy every minute with him. I think what will get you through the bullshit is your boy, because he needs you. :P Cheer up though, it's going to get better. Maybe there is something good in store.



Signed,
Alyshaz ..xoxoxox

[jitterz]

I'm sorry hun. No one ever said you have to fall out of love just because a person wronged you, if that was the case there would definitely be a lot less pain. You so do not deserve this, and I am sorry you are going through her head games. I'm here if you want to talk/vent/not be able to figure out what to do ;) Anything.

<3
Megan

[Anonymous]

i have the solution... REBOUND SEX!!
lol... im just playing... seriously though...

sometimes people love other people because they like subconsiously the position that person puts them in. for example: i love my fiance with all my heart. but part of the reason why the initial attraction and staying power of the relationship was there was because we were very co-dependent on each other. that was a big reason, now that i look back. it doesnt mean that i love him, but when things feel apart between us, and we could no longer depend on each other because we couldnt even take care of ourselves, we found out that we still do love each other, but that we need some time apart to stabalize our lives independently, without having each other up each others asses all the fucking time. so we are still together, we just decided that we each need to get our shit together before resuming the relationship, so that the relationship is based on love and not co-dependency.

this is my point.... both of us have always had the need to have someone use us some way because thats all we know from growing up. so it was almost a subconsious need to put ourselves in comprimising poisitions cuz thats all we knew about relationships. the trick is not "do you love her" its can you take care of yourself emotionally and physically without her, and when shes in your life, does she change your independent status in any way shape or form? does she ask for money instead of making her own? does she verbally abuse you? does she put your or your son in a comprimising position? just ask yourself a ton of questions.... and then ask, if this person doesnt love me, which she seems to have stated, then why am i attracted to relationships that i know wont work? where is my self worth? when did i decide that i wasnt worth having someone in my life who loved my unconidtionally, and that i had to settle??

that way its not...well, this is what you have to do.... its more like asking the right questions to yourself to come to your own conclusions, because none of us know you better than you know yourself. so, grab a box of kleenex, get some time by yourself, and dig deep and find out what this is REALLY all about for you. because no matter what, there is a lesson to be learned here, and once you learn that lesson, im positive it will help you draw the right conclusions as to handle your situation.

[Kevy Kev]

My ex wife did sorta the same thing recently and I feel for it.........it ended up hurting me all over again....

I'm not one to really give out relationship advice since I'm barely 20 and already divorced but I'd say take some time off of the entire dating thing and just get your mind straight.......

On the other hand you do have a kid and personally......it sucks growing up with one parent so with that being said I'd say try and reconcile things and make it work.

A marriage is nothing to just throw away........but some people (my ex wife) think that it's no big deal.....

>:)

[SKOTurNOT]

Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks. werd!!!


i really appreciate all ur replys..and i know ill be ok in the end..it just sux ya know.....the good thing is that we are still frendz...i have mad love for her and to answer CELLS question ya im still in love with her...weve been together for like 6 years and maried for almost 4...and this was kinda outta the blue for me....i quess she had been thinkin about it for a lil whilw but never really told me...this all happend right after i thouhgt i was gonna go to jail but ended up gettin my probation transferd to NV during all this she went back home to sandiego and we havent been back together since....but fuk it 2 bees in a bucket...gotta keep on keepin on right......and as for dating...shit iwas never really into that..she was the first girl i was ever really into in that way (staedy relationship) b4 her i thought i would never get married ya know..should have stuk with my playa wayz huh.......

ne fukin way thanks to all those who took the time to read this and try to help a homie out..u have no idea how good to feels to have support wen ur going thru shit like this especcially wen ur new in town and dont really know no body.....

so thanks from the depths of my soul..

SCOTT

[SKOTurNOT]

A marriage is nothing to just throw away........but some people (my ex wife) think that it's no big deal.....

>:)

i feel ya on that....its funny how b4 her i thought marrige was a big joke ..but being married to her was one the best feeling i have had......

[SKOTurNOT]

she is your addiction she is your heroin....


well ya she is.....but then again i quit all other drugs so maybe thers hope..............


ne way thanx bro!!

[RaveCrusader]

Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.

Hehe, Sarah rocks... >>>:)

I don’t have the same excessive flare for the dramatic as some people here. I am a bit less sensitive.

My advice, don’t do it. What ever she did to you before that was not so pleasant will happen again. I would be offended by the fact that she was drunk when she called. Is that not something important enough that she could tell you with a sober and level head? Many peeps say things to old flames like that when they are drunk because they are lonely or horny.

If you really care about someone, then you don’t do nasty things to them. It is as simple as that. Some peeps try to complicate things so they can stay indecisive or keep their options open. Whether or not you have children or not is irrelevant. The only thing that matters at that point is whether you could be happy with a relationship that is a slight dysfunctional. If you can tolerate the types of things that went on before, then do it. If not, then move on. Lots of kids grow up with parents that are not together and turn out fine.

I did not remember you saying this anywhere but as a general rule it annoys me when peeps say that they are staying together for the ‘kids’ sake. That is ridiculous. All the kids are doing is growing up see a dysfunctional relationship in action. If mom and dad are functional/happy or not, the kids can tell and it will affect them accordingly.

But, good luck to you and I hope that things get better. I am sure that are many peeps that have been there and know what you are going through.

[Anonymous]

my mom always said...no one should get married until they are 35!!!

and i'm starting to think that she is right

[spins19]

I know its hard homie.......but you just gotta let one chapter end.....and another one opens up.

Give it some time...........

time heals all wounds......just kick it with friends

make some laughs and good times

[SKOTurNOT]

ys frendzae alwayzhelpful...unfortunatlly almost all ofmy frndz are in DAYGO...and im out here in VEGAS.......i just kinda keep my self busy with work and my son.....